Monday, December 29, 2008

Motivational Monday- Fear of Failure

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Word of the Day- WOTD!

A Passion For People
2Corinthians 5:9-21
Talking to Christ about others helps us to talk to others about Christ.

My New Year's Resolution: Weight Loss, of Course

As 2008 comes to an end I find myself reflecting on goals met and goals unmet. One of my goals for the year was to focus on building my relationship coaching business after the birth of my third child. Goal met. This has proven to be a lot of work, yet very rewarding. Another goal that comes to mind every time I look in the mirror is probably the most popular goal of all time-the weight loss resolution. Goal unmet...until now.

Every year, someone comes up with some sort of slogan or theme for the coming year like "looking great in 2008." I think mine will be "looking and feeling fine in 2009." I'll post it by the treadmill, right over an old picture of me in my younger, more fit days. How's that for motivation?I think I'll use that old picture as one way to help me reach my fitness goals. So far, so good. Every time I get the urge to go back for seconds I think about that picture. Of course, that picture was taken pre-marriage and pre-baby, but it still serves a purpose-a visual, motivational purpose.

Secondly, I'll try eating healthier. They say eating more fruits and vegetables is not only nutritious, but it helps shed extra pounds. They are right-whoever "they" is. In the past two weeks I have lost 4 pounds by snacking on fruit instead of my beloved honey buns.

"They" offered more advice. Drink more water rings in my head constantly. I even bought a 32 ounce water bottle. It's actually more like a huge jug that can be a bit cumbersome to carry around once I factor in the oversized baby bag, my briefcase, and the kids. Can't complain too much, I'm burning extra calories. In the end, it'll all be worth it.

Now, I can't forget about exercise. "They" have offered more helpful advice. It seems I need to do this at least four times a week in addition to my healthy eating and drinking habits. After being up and down with my infant all night I would rather sleep in some mornings. But look, there's that old picture of me hanging near the treadmill reminding me of how it will feel to be able to put on a pair of jeans without sucking in my stomach. In the end, I'll be glad I got out of bed.

Finally, I'll have to be accountable to someone. Studies show that when a person joins a weight loss club or incorporates other people into their fitness regimen in some way they are likely to lose more weight than a person going it alone. So far, I have told a bunch of family members, female family members who hold no punches when it comes to telling another woman about her appearance. If they don't motivate you to take a look in the mirror I don't know what else will. In the end, self-determination is my motivator.

Put all these strategies together and I think my weight loss goal will move from unmet to mission accomplished and in the end...I'll feel great.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Are You Prepared For Greatness?

From everyone to whom much has been given, much will be required; and from one to whom much has been entrusted, even more will be demanded.-Luke 12:48
In the pursuit of greatness, the strive toward success, the focus is generally on the expected outcome and not the journey along the way. The gloriousness of the intended goal sometimes clouds the impending sacrifice that is required to obtain that goal. In the Gospel of Mark, Mark describes Jesus as one who came to "give his life as a ransom for many," (Mark 10:45) and who was crucified for the redemption of mankind. Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison for standing against apartheid in South Africa, later to become President of a Democratic South Africa. Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated because of his stance on civil and social injustice in the U.S. Mohandas Gandhi was imprisoned for many years, on numerous occasions, in both South Africa and India and later assassinated. Gandhi was a practitioner of non-violence and truth and his beliefs included compassion to sentient beings, fasting for self-purification, and mutual tolerance between individuals of different creeds. He was quoted as saying:
"When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall — think of it, always."
The commonality between individuals who achieved greatness is Sacrifice! As you prepare for your journey toward greatness, ask yourself the following questions:

What personal sacrifice are you willing to take to achieve success?
Who are you willing to sacrifice for?
Does your dream of success only benefit you?
Who will be impacted by your greatness?
Are you prepared to lose in order to gain?
Are you willing to sacrifice your desires so that someone else can achieve success?
Destine for Greatness, see you when I get there!

Friday, December 19, 2008

The 12 Days AFTER Christmas

12 minutes on the elliptical
11 Lat pull down
10 reverse crunch
9 push ups
8 tricep kickbacks
7 lunges
6 hamstring curls
5 days a week
3 sets of jumping jacks
2 cycling classes

Monday, December 15, 2008

Monday Motivator-Greatness

Nothing liberates our greatness like the desire to help, the desire to serve
-Marianne Williamson

Creativity means believing you have greatness.

I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble.

If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.
-T. Alan Armstrong

The man who is anybody and who does anything is surely going to be criticized, vilified, and misunderstood. This is a part of the penalty for greatness, and every great man understands it; and understands, too, that it is no proof of greatness. The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure contumely without resentment.
-Elbert Green Hubbard

Greatness be nothing unless it be lasting.
-Napoleon Bonaparte

There are no great men, only great challenges that ordinary men are forced by circumstances to meet.
-William F. Halsey
Knowledge is Power and Love Conquers All
-Sapphire Starr

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Happy Friday! Better Than Sex Cake Recipe

Better Than Sex Cake

Category: Better Than Sex Cake
Serves/Makes: 10 | Difficulty Level: 3 | Ready In: 30-60 minutes


1 package Chocolate cake mix
14 ounces sweetened condensed milk
17 ounces caramel, butterscotch, or hot fudge topping
cool whip
5 ounces toffee chips
1/2 cup chopped pecans

Preheat oven to 350F. Prepare and bake cake 30 minutes in 13-x-9 pan. Cool for 15 minutes. Poke top of cake every half inch with fork. Drizzle sweetened condensed milk evenly over top of cake.

Let stand until milk has been absorbed into cake. Drizzle with ice cream topping. Spread with cool whip. Sprinkle with toffee chips and pecans. Refrigerate if not serving immediately.


Monday, December 8, 2008

Monday Motivator

Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.
-Warren Buffett

Sunday, November 30, 2008

World AIDS Day 2008- Out of the Shadows

Know Your HIV status?

At the end of 2003,* an estimated 1,039,000 to 1,185,000 persons in the United States were living with HIV/AIDS [1]. In 2006, 35,314 new cases of HIV/AIDS in adults, adolescents, and children were diagnosed in the 33 states with long-term, confidential name-based HIV reporting . CDC has developed a new and innovative system designed to estimate the number of new HIV infections (or incidence) for the United States in a given year. Using this new technology, CDC estimates that 56,300 new HIV infections occurred in the United States in 2006.As a Clinical Technologist I see an alarming number of new HIV cases. What's your perspective on HIV/AIDS? What can be done to stop this epidemic? How can we educate our communities to bring more awarenss to the devastation of this disease? Do you know your status? Get tested! Go to find testing sites near you.

Support World Aids Day! Know Your Status!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Monday Motivator-"Destine For Greatness"

Nelson Mandela who went from being a prisoner to president, eloquently illustrates the significance of embracing and accepting our GREATNESS. We need to comprehend this on a much deeper level in order to progress from survival to success to GREATNESS.
Please read and contemplate the following words which may already be at least somewhat familiar to you:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant?" Who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us: it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.

--Nelson Mandela's 1994 Inaugural Speech (fragment)

Friday, November 14, 2008

You're Beautiful!

Flipping through a popular magazine while waiting to purchase groceries, or channel surfing to find Dancing with the Stars, I’m often frustrated with the bombardment of images of frail thin women selling everything from lipstick to shampoo. We're trained to believe that a size 14 is the entry gate to Plus-Sized Kingdom.Our society portrayal of beauty is flawed and doesn’t represent the average women. Despite society’s flawed expectation of what makes a woman beautiful, every woman possesses the true essence of beauty. Beautiful is your smile, your personality, your ability to love and take care of your family, to cherish your self-worth, unwavering integrity and character, to stay poised and strong during turbulent circumstances. Beauty defined is excellent and wonderful! All women despite race, size, shape, age, or economic class can live up to those expectations.

What size is the "Average" woman?

The average American woman is 5'4", weighs 140 lbs, and wears a size 14 dress. The "ideal" woman--portrayed by models, Miss America, Barbie dolls, and screen actresses--is 5'7", weighs 100 lbs, and wears a size 8.

One-third of all American women wear a size 16 or larger.75% of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance.

50% of American women are on a diet at any one time.

You're an unique original design by God! Flaunt your flaws, embrace your natural beauty, and know that You are Beautiful!

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Redemption For the Frivolous Spender

Have you purchased a very expensive pair of shoes that you could not LIVE without, despite not having room for the ones at the house? Did you purchase that Flat Screen HD TV for the bathroom so that you won't miss the game while handling business? Or you just couldn't pass up the opportunity to purchase that rotating jewelry case from QVC for 5 easy payments of 69.99. The current condition of the economy should have everyone holding tight to loose change and clutching their wallets, but some can't kick the habit of spending frivolously despite current economic conditions. They say confession is good for the soul and admittance is the first step toward recovery, and Spendster offers a place for frivolous spenders to bare their soul.

Spendster was started by the National Endowment for Financial Education, a nonprofit aimed at helping people learn about handling their finances. It's intended to offer a place for spenders to admit poor spending habits and make steps toward better ones.

Most people buy on impulse or feel compelled to spend their money because "it was on sale". Only to regret the decision later and to be stored in the "junk "drawer or garage along side many other unused purchases. Whether it's the 600 treadmill that doubles as a clothes hanger, or that collection of pricey handbags that lives in the back of your closet, Spendster offers tools that not only provide insight into your current spending habits, but also provided resources to compare the benefits of investing over spending.

The purpose of this site is aimed at getting people to think rationally about their spending habits. The site notes, "Share your story of impulse buying, over-spending or just plain wasting money on the stuff you don't need."

Monday, November 10, 2008

Monday Motivator-Follow Your Dreams

All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible.
-T.E. Lawrence

Friday, October 31, 2008

Breast Cancer In Men

What you didn’t know………………

According to the American Cancer Society

The risk of men getting breast cancer is 1/10th of 1% (1 in 1,000)*
About 1,990 new cases of invasive breast cancer in men (US) will be diagnosed in 2008*
In 2008, about 450 men will die from breast cancer in the US*

The best strategy for reducing the number of deaths caused by breast cancer is prevention and early detection. For example, maintaining ideal body weight and restricting alcohol consumption can lower the risk of breast cancer in men. Early detection has proved more challenging because men tend to ignore lumps and only see a physician when lumps becomes larger. That’s why men are generally diagnosed at far advance stages than women, which reduces odds for successful treatment.

The prognosis for men with breast cancer was once thought to be greater than women, but recent studies have not found this to be true. Men and women with the same stage of breast cancer have a fairly similar outlook for survival.

Ladies make sure you pass this information on to the men in your life.

*American Cancer Society,

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Be Safe This Holiday

Some people will be going trick-or-treating this upcoming Halloween. I’m not an advocate of this yearly practice but by offering you tips I’d rather you be safe than sorry. Stay in groups whether you’re an adult, teen, child, male or female. Check your candy for tampering. One year a razor blade was found in a child’s chocolate candy. What sort of person would do this…I could only imagine. Be wary of everyone. A lady was assaulted in her apartment when a guy showed up in a firefighter’s uniform saying he had to check for smoke damage because several small fires broke out in her apartment complex.

It is especially important to be on guard when you start shopping for Christmas gifts. During the holidays last year the television show, “America’s Most Wanted,” highlighted a string of murders taking place near shopping centers and malls. So, be sure to keep your car doors locked at all times. I make it a practice to put my three children in the van on the same side as the driver’s side so the door on the passenger’s side stays locked. Since a van is fairly roomy, I sometimes close the door and lock it behind me while I’m buckling the kids. If it’s locked nobody can sneak in on us. Also, always have your keys ready before you get to your vehicle. Once you arrive home it is a good idea to have your keys ready as you approach your front door as well.

It is hard to believe that the New Year is right around the corner. Soon, we all will be watching “the ball” drop as we count down the seconds. Some of us will be at home singing Auld Lang Syne and others will be out in the street celebrating the year to come with friends, family and strangers. For those of you who will be in your prospective cities-please be on guard. Many of you will be drinking. Statistically, the rate of drunken driving accidents rises at certain times of the year, particularly holidays ( It is very important that someone step up and be a designated driver so that we can all step into 2009 on a positive note.

Start taking these simple precautions today. As you leave your house or job today, make sure you look around and be observant. Keep doors locked. Keep your keys in your hand so that you can make entries into your house and car quick ones. Stay off the cell phone while you are walking. In reality, it does not deter criminals from attacking you, but serves as a distraction to you from your surroundings. Remember to stay in groups at all times. If we all take simple, commonsense steps to being cautious, we can make it into the coming year safe and happy as we begin to work on our New Year’s resolution.

Web Source: "DUITips." LifeTips. 2008. 28 Oct. 2008

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Keeping Your Sanity During the Holidays

With the holidays right around the corner, many people are getting more and more stressed because they are taking on more than they can handle. I’ve been there, done that and it’s not worth it in the end. Now, I sit back and watch other people get stressed out and fight over the last toy in stock or the closest parking space. If you are one who gets excited over traveling and shopping during the holidays here are a few suggestions I think you could use to help you have cheerful, memorable holidays this year.

Suggestion one: Be Frugal
The biggest advice you may hear these days from finance gurus is to limit credit card use. After the holidays, reality along with depression sets in for many. They end up with more bills than they can handle and all on high interest credit cards. A lot of these high interest cards are opened after a store offers a 10% discount or more on merchandise for new accounts. This is too good to be true. The stores know there is a big chance these cards will not be paid off before interest accrues. More money for them, more bills for you. With interest rates as high as they are you’ll also be paying more than the item is worth. In most cases, you’ll still be paying for an item that is no longer being used, like a child’s toy, which may possibly be broken by the time the New Year rolls around.

Calling people can mean more than mailing an expensive gift. I’m a bit old-fashioned and not big on text messaging, but I have learned to appreciate the fact that people take time to send a quick “Happy Holidays” even if it was sent to everybody listed in their phone. It’s the thought that counts right? LOL

Suggestion two: Be nice
Being around family during the holidays can work some people’s nerves. A lot of personalities are gathered around during these times. A shared history may dredge up bad memories. Alcohol often brings down inhibitions making it easy for most people to be no longer guarded.
When drama starts raring its ugly head try letting comments roll off you like water on a duck’s back. Easier said than done, but possible. Be bold and try some assertiveness as opposed to aggressiveness-an action that will only make matters worse. When all else fails, remember and remind everyone of the good times. Keep your sense of humor when everyone loses theirs.

Suggestion three: Be thankful
Not to end on a sad note, but a large number of people didn’t make it this far into the year. My 89-year-old great-grandfather passed away a few short weeks ago. An acquaintance of mine lost her cousin last weekend. Lastly, my spouse’s old co-worker and friend has been in the hospital for a month with no health insurance. Regardless of how many presents I receive this Christmas and regardless of what my drunk uncle says at Thanksgiving that might offend me, I am going to make the conscious decision to be thankful that I am healthy and in my right mind.

Now, as you begin this holiday season in the weeks to come, I hope you remember this article. Think about how putting those presents on credit will affect you two or three months down the road. You might be better off making simple, yet thoughtful telephone calls. Try showing family more love with kind words-a soft answer turns away wrath. Most of all take time to slow down and be thankful. Hopefully, these three tidbits of advice will keep you sane during this holiday season.

Monday, October 20, 2008

Friday, October 17, 2008

Food For Thought-"Purpose"

Here are the million dollar questions:

What is my purpose? Why am I here?

Purpose: the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used,etc.

Destiny: The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined; one's lot

Many people are often trying to find their “purpose” in life. Always searching but never finding what they’re looking for. Our purpose was implanted upon our creation. Every individual is a unique designer original created by God. Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works. When an object is created, its function and how it works is included in the design. Once created it does not have to be sent off to find its purpose. If object when created does not operate according to the design it cannot be used.

While in college, I studied the laws of thermodynamics in chemistry. There are two types of energy, potential and kinetic. Potential energy is stored energy. For example when God created us, He gave us the power to operate in our purpose to fulfill our destiny. The purpose is there, but is not released. Kinetic energy is energy in motion. In order to be effective, you have to do something with the power you possess. The First Law of Thermodynamics says that energy under normal conditions cannot be created or destroyed, simply transformed from one type of energy to another. Your purpose cannot be recreated or destroyed; no one can take your purpose away from you. There are two types of systems, closed and opened. By a closed system what is meant is a system that is completely isolated from the rest of the universe, nothing could get in or out of the box. This is the tragedy of not operating in your purpose. Going through life not realizing your potential and not putting it to use. Open systems take in or capture matter and or energy from the surrounding environment fighting against entropy (chaos) by taking in matter and energy allowing them to stay organized. This is the power of an individual who realize their purpose and operates fully toward their destiny. Understanding that challenges are inevitable, yet not allowing it to hinder their purpose.

You already possess the skills, talents, and ability to operate in your God given purpose. What do you like to do? What are you good at? What would you do if you knew you would not fail? Everyone has the potential to be great!
Don’t be afraid to think and do the impossible!

Psalm 139:14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Book Of The Month

The Power of Positive Thinking
Power of Positive Thinking
Peale, Norman Vincent, 1898


"This book is written with the sole objective of helping the reader achieve a happy, satisfying, and worthwhile life." -- Norman Vincent Peale The Power of Positive Thinking has helped millions of men and women to achieve fulfillment in their lives. In this phenomenal bestseller, Dr. Peale demonstrates the power of faith in action. With the practical techniques outlined in this book, you can energize your life -- and give yourself the initiative needed to carry out your ambitions and hopes. You'll learn how to:

  1. Believe in yourself and in everything you do
  2. Build new power and determination
  3. Develop the power to reach your goals
  4. Break the worry habit and achieve a relaxed life
  5. Improve your personal and professional relationships
  6. Assume control over your circumstances
  7. Be kind to yourself

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Biz Buzz Thursday-"Connect To Success"

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Sunday, October 5, 2008

OCTOBERFEST 2008: Savannah, GA

I'm too sexy for this picture!

Too Sexy for these Shades!
Window Shopping..............
Window Shopping.........

All Aboard The "PeaceMaker"

It's Hot Out Here!

Ok, where are the kids??????

Bottoms UP!

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Money Talks- Emergency Fund

An Emergency Fund is money set aside in times of crisis-job loss, unexpected illness, major home or car repair, etc. Due to the instability of current market its imperative that you have money set aside in case of an emergency. There is no way to predict when an emergency will occur but you can be prepared if something happens. Emergency funds give you the financial freedom and time needed until your condition improves. Over 80,000 jobs were lost this year, and in January, over 250,000 homes were lost due to foreclosures. So the real question isn't whether, or even when, they will happen, but how it will be resolved.

How Much?
A general rule of thumb is to save at least 3-6 months of living expenses. Determine how much you need to save by tracking your monthly expenses both fixed and variable? Examples of fixed would be your rent/mortgage, car payment, insurance premiums. Examples of variables food, gas, clothing, utilities. Check out sites like Mint, My Spending Plan , or Duck Software, that offer free online tools to help create, track, and understand your monthly expenses. Start saving something today. It doesn't have to be a large amount; start small and gradual increase until goal amount is reached.

How to save on tight budget?
Once you create a budget you will be able to have a graphical view of how you spend your money. You will be surprised to find out that your spending $100 a month on take out, or $85 bucks on lattes and morning Joe! Evaluate your budget and find create ways to shift money to more constructive spending, ie emergency fund. Treat the fund like a bill and even consider having set amount automatically transferred from your checking account or pay check.

Where to Keep it?
I often considered putting my money in a coffee can and bury it in the back yard (probably safer than the current stock market), but that is a bit archaic! The market will eventually improve and confidence will be restored. According to A Women's Guide to Investing, you want to keep your money in an account that are fairly liquid and will not risk losing your money-such as high yielding Savings Account , or Money Market Account (not your checking account), or short-term investments like Certificate of Deposit (CD) or US Treasury Bonds. Wherever you decide to keep your money, the key is accessibility in times of emergency.

When to Save?

Monday, September 29, 2008

Monday Motivator-Don't Quit

"When things go wrong as they sometimes will
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill.
When funds are low and the debts are high.
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit.
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns.
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out:

Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far:
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit
It's when things seem worst that you must not QUIT.
Author unknown

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Talk Money Tuesday-"Bail Me Out"

Unless your living in a hole in Alaska beneath a missile interceptor (too much NPR), you are experiencing the effect of the declining economy. With the mortgage and credit crisis, increasing oil & food prices, declining financial markets, political pundits deciding rather my tax dollars should "bailout" millionaires, I often search for the light at the end of the tunnel. What can I do to survive these trying times? Pray! Stay focus! Work diligently! Vote!

Here's some money advice from John Wesley, an English preacher from the 1700's
  1. Make as much as you can
  2. Save as much as you can
  3. Give away as much as you can.

(make sure you do it in that order :))

Monday, September 22, 2008

Monday Motivator

When you have a great and difficult task, something perhaps almost impossible, if you only work a little at a time, every day a little, suddenly the work will finish itself.
-Isak Dinesen

Monday, September 15, 2008

Write Your 10!

Reading an article in Inc. Magazine, I was inspired to write this post. Napolean Hill, Author of Think and Grow Rich, wrote one of the fundamentals to success is knowing what you want. Simple right? Key word is fundamental. Of course success requires more than wanting it, you must invest time, money, and energy and must be willing to work hard , be committed, sacrifice, etc. The key principle is Desire. Henry Ford wrote, If you think you can, if you think you can't, your right! You are what you think, you can have your heart's desire. If your constantly complaining I'm broke, I'm fat, I'm skinny, I can't take care of these kids, I'll never get into that school, I'll never have that job, I can't find a good man/women, you subconsciously train yourself into to believing and accepting facts as your fate. The tongue has the power to kill or the power to give life-Proverbs 18:21. Today write down 10 things you want to accomplish and everyday say them out loud, plan a course of action, and live your life in a such a way to make these goals become obtainable. Nothing is Impossible!
My 10
  1. Go on a Mission Trip.

  2. Travel the U.S.

  3. Obtain Master's Degree

  4. Send Danni to prestigious college

  5. Start a Business (travel, natural health and beauty products, women's boutique)

  6. Save at least a million

  7. Run/Walk Marathon (Boston Marathon) or Participate in Triathlon

  8. Become a Mentor

  9. Become HIV/AIDS Activist

  10. Move out of Savannah,GA

Leave a comment, share your 10!

Monday, September 8, 2008

Make No Little Plans!

Food for thought......................

Make no little plans. They have no magic to stir men's blood and probably themselves will not be realized. Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will never die, but long after we are gone will be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistency. Remember that our sons and grandsons are going to do things that would stagger us. Let your watchword be order and your beacon beauty. Think big.
Daniel Burnham, Chicago architect. (1864-1912)

Thursday, September 4, 2008

How Honest Are You?

Once, I received a call from a lady who was interested in relationship coaching. Her primary complaint was that her boyfriend was being secretive about how much money he made and what he did with his paychecks. During the course of the call, I mentioned that secrecy could be damaging to a relationship. All of a sudden, she starts yelling at him. She tells him I said he should not be hiding his money and should tell her how he is spending it. As I sat there listening, I could hear her boyfriend laughing at her the whole time she is hollering. For all I know, his mindset could have been that they were only dating and what he did with his earnings was his business. Now, one problem I saw with this couple, aside from his lack to take his girlfriend’s concerns seriously, was the fact that she wanted honesty but was not giving it herself.

This scenario happens in many relationships. You have one person who wants the other person to be an open book. Yet, they are not practicing a reasonable degree of openness themselves. Most often, people are secretive because they have been hurt in the past and are carrying around emotional baggage. In case you don’t realize it, baggage can have an adverse effect on relationships which causes a person to collect more baggage as they move from one relationship to another. A vicious cycle takes place and can be seen in each relationship this person becomes a part of unless he or she learns to trust and be trusted.

It can be hard to see the benefits of learning to trust when you have been hurt so many times. Some people wonder how to enter into and keep a trusting relationship. This takes work on both parties. That is why it’s imperative to calmly discuss issues as they arise and to make a joint effort to find fitting resolutions. The benefits of being in relationships filled with openness and honesty consist of more satisfaction and happiness and less worrying about nonsense. It’s easier for a relationship to continue moving forward when both people are behaving maturely and treating one another with respect.

Take some time to reflect on your relationships. What are you tolerating? Is dishonesty causing conflict? Are you giving honesty but not getting it in return? Maybe, you're the "guilty" party. Think about the importance of your relationships and your part in making them better. Start by using a little bit of honesty.

(Get more techniques on improving your relationships with the E-book, "Make Any Relationship Work: 5 Simple Steps ")

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Job Tips to Survive the Recession

In today's looming economy, your confidence in finding a job may be lagging. Don't despair, you can still find a job during tough economic downturns by changing your perspective of the current job market. According to an article on Career Builder written by Joe Turner, the following five tips can increase your chances of finding a job and improve your job search strategy.

1.Research your options
Reevaluate your current job market and determine if a career change is necessary for success. Do an online search of top performing job industries. Perform keyword searches on popular search engines such as Google and Yahoo. Also go to, to get update information on occupations, statistical data for job outlooks, and education requirements for specific careers. Also find advice through employment sites such as Career Builders, Monster, Headhunters, or Yahoo Hot Jobs.

2.Change Your Focus
Don't focus on what an employer can do for you, rather focus on what you have to offer a company. Ask yourself, "Why should this company hire me?" Be prepared to present your past experience and how your abilities can improve production of the current potential employer.
According to Turner, "You should show them that you understand the macroeconomics of the role you play in moving the company forward."

3.Sell Results, not skills
When applying for a job with the Federal government, you must add a KSA (Knowledge,Skills, Abilities) statement along with resume. Your knowledge demonstrate your understanding of policy and procedures, skills demonstrates educational background acquired and abilities are your past experience to carry a specific task out. Take that a step further and highlight your results-what you've used your knowledge,skills and abilities to accomplish. Define your past and present job accomplishment and how it would be an asset to the new employer.

4.Money Talks
Because of the conditions of the economy, hiring managers today are looking for two types of employees,
A) Ones who makes money
B) Ones that save money
Which one are you?

5.Add Specific Key Words, Achievements, and Training to your resume.
Adding keywords specific to target job market is very critical for a successful resume. Most HR use software that scan resumes to eliminate ones that are not specific to target job posting and selections of resumes that best fit advertised qualification. Spruce up your resume with your achievements and training. Be specific and target those accomplishments that have improve the bottom line of your previous company. Illustrate what you can do and how your proven yourself in the past. Also add any additional training you've acquired which illustrates your imitative and ability to stay competent regarding issues that will improve the quality of your performance.

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Monday, September 1, 2008

Moment of Reflection

Take the time to evaluate yourself. When are you most content, at peace, focused? Revisit those experiences and regain those moments that are so easily lost in our world's clamor, life's adversaries, and daily activities. Mediate on things that are positive and challenge yourself constantly. Never settle for less than your heart's desire and always dream big!

"Live today, for yesterday is a memory and tomorrow is yet a dream!"

Monday, August 25, 2008

Michelle Obama: My Hero

Poised, Elegant, Educated, Beautiful! Michelle Obama is a mother, a sister, a wife, a daughter, a leader. Her life reflects the lives of many Americans. She represent the ability to rise against the odds through hard work and dedication to make dreams possible. At 14 I became a mother, lived in the projects and was on welfare. I was written off as hopeless, another statistic, a product of the system. But despite hardships, I saw difficulties as opportunity to rise above my situation. I worked hard, obtain a Bachelors of Science in Biology and Medical Technology, moved from the projects and became a homeowner to provide stability for my daughter. In life there are no excuses big enough to block your dream, no obstacle impossible to master! Michelle Obama speech at the DNC was not only compelling but it gave a true sense of who the Obama family are and what they represent. The Obama Family gives new found hope and a new beginning for all who gave up on what life has to offer. You can achieve the impossible, if you believe!

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Time For Success

The average life span is 70 years- 25,568 days, 613,620 hours, 36,817,200 minutes, 2,209,032,000 seconds. How you spend every second, minute, hour, day, of your life is critical to your emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual development. As I watch the 2008 summer Olympics, I’m amazed at the level of skill, precision, dedication, athleticism of the athletes. In the Olympics the best of the best compete for the coveted gold medal. I wonder what did it take and how much time was spent on becoming the best at their sport.

Michael Phelps, World Breaking Olympic Gold Medallists Swimmer, trains for six hours a day, six days a week, without fail. Even if Christmas day falls on a training day, he does a full day of training. Total dedication to his training program has made him a world champion. He swims approximately 50 miles (80km) each week, which is over 8 miles per training day. He has two massages everyday and also takes ice baths to help his body to recover.

Usain Bolt, a Jamaican sprinter, at the 2008 Summer Olympics became the first man to win all three events at a single Olympics since Carl Lewis in 1984, and the first man in history to set world records in all three at a single Olympics. He trains 5 times per week on track, 3 times in the gym for average sessions that lasts 2.5 hours.

Shawn Johnson, Olympic Gold American gymnast, has disciplined herself to practice four hours a day, five days a week.

What do you want to accomplish? What do you do with your time? What sacrifices are you willing to make? How you spend your time demonstrates your willingness to be successful at the goals you set. Everyone has the ability to be great! But are you taking the time to develop your talent and work diligently toward it. Do you spend a lot of time watching television, surfing the net, talking or text on the phone. What value do they add to your personal achievements? If your constantly eating unhealthy foods and not active you will gain weight and be at risk for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, heart disease, and diabetes. Want to advance in your career, but are you taking time to take classes or get higher education to achieve that goal? Saving for a new car or new home, you don’t want to spend your paycheck every time there is a sale at the mall. Spending time with your family is necessary in developing strong, lasting bonds. You become what you develop! I’ve found the best way to manage my time is to create a to-do list for the week. This keeps me focus on my goals and eliminates temptations to deviate from my intended task. Sometimes life’s daily activities can distract us from our intended goals and we lose sight of our dreams. Maybe you don't have time for yourself because you've acquired baggage that makes it very difficult to carry out your dreams. Try the following to get back on track:

Eliminate activities that are not getting you where you want to go, or helping you achieve your goals.

Evaluate relationships that do not contribute to your overall success. Eliminate or reduce the amount of time spent on relationships that aren’t going anywhere or taking you in opposite direction of where you’re going.

Avoid Spending money on items not used or does not add value or have lasting benefits.

Eliminate time spent that is not contributing to your overall well-being or mission in life.

Sunday, August 17, 2008


The following is an insert taken from sermon notes by Pastor Greg Formey. I pray it has as much impact on you as it did on me. Remember to keep the faith, stay focus, don't give up the fight for peace, love, and happiness.

The apostle Paul found a way to be excited even in the midst of adversity. 2 Corinth 12:9-10
"my gracious favor is all you need. My power works best in your weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may work through me. Since I know it is all for Christ's good, I am quite content with my weaknesses and with insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Annie Johnson Flint was a hymn writer who suffered greatly in her lifetime. From a very young age, she suffered from rheumatoid arthritis that left her crippled and unable to rise from bed. To alleviate the pain and discomfort, she rested and slept on soft pillows. Her body developed serious bedsores and finally her body was overtaken by cancer. Yet her attitude through all the struggles with pain and confinement was that of submission, faith, and trust in God to give her the grace and the strength she needed. With a pen pushed through bent and gnarled fingers and held by swollen joints she wrote her verses which provided solace and comfort for herself, her friends, and the world. One poem she wrote was "He Giveth More Grace"

"He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater, He sendeth more strength when the labors increase; to added affliction He addeth His mercy to multiplied trials, His multiplied peace. His love has no limit, His grace has no measure; His power no boundary known unto men; for His infinite riches in Jesus He giveth and giveth and giveth again. When we have exhausted our store of endurance, when our strength has failed ere the day is half done, when we reach the end of our hoarded resources, Our Father's full giving is only begun."

Be Blessed!

Friday, August 15, 2008

Family Fun: Georgia Aquarium

Family Fun: Georgia Aquarium
ATL Bound

Are We there yet?

Too Sexy for this lobby

Let's go!

Are we there yet?!.
Spectacular View
Collage of Fun!

What are you looking at?


In Successful Families, one key component to building a successful family is planning family events. Planning family events is the best way to strengthen family bonds. Last weekend, Ms. T and I spent an entire weekend with our kids at the Georgia Aquarium. We stayed at the Omni Suites at the CNN Center. The location was perfect, we were walking distance from the aquarium and minutes away from all downtown Atlanta had to offer. The view was spectacular we can see Centennial Park directly from our suite. Our day started early at the aquarium; we ventured in with curious eyes waiting to explore the wonders of the sea. My favorite exhibit was Cold Water Quest where the Beluga whales, California sea lions, sea otters and African black-footed penguins reside. The kids were excited to see their favorite characters from the movie, Finding Nemo and the Ocean Voyager Exhibit where the large whale shark are kept (largest fish species in the world). After an exciting, long, hot, day we ventured into the park where the kids cool down in the Centennial Park fountain. By the time we arrived back to our suite, the kids were exhausted. By nightfall it was mommy time! We decided to see the movie, Dark Knight. The movie was great and filled with action, mystery, suspense, and chaos all together to make the best batman movie ever. Everyone had a really good time! The trip was definitely family friendly because we were able to satisfy the curiosity of the little ones, entertain two teenagers, and give peace of mind to the parents. Family time not only strengthen bonds, it leaves a lasting imprint on every one involved. We had the opportunity to learn something new and were given the chance to communicate about our experience with each other. Spending time with my daughter is top priority. I want to spend as much time with her for as long as she enjoys hanging with me. Before long she will be off to college when it would no longer be cool to hang out with mom (at 15, it’s probably not cool but she doesn’t have a choice, lol). Even though we will not always be together, the memory of our experience will last forever.
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